Why Do They Stay?
- March 30, 2008
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One of the main questions that often arises in the discussion of domestic violence issues is why do women remain in abusive relationships to begin with? A lot of people can’t understand why someone would willingly stay in a situation which brings them constant danger and pain and often partially place the blame on victims for not speaking out or leaving.
Women may not immediately leave an abusive relationship because*:
- They fear their abusers will become more violent — perhaps fatal — stalking them if they leave.
- Friends and family may not support their decision to leave.
- They fear being a single parent with little money.
- There are periods of calm, nurturing and love between incidents of violence (see The Cycle of Abuse).
- They may be unaware of sources of advocacy and support.
- They may be unaware of shelters and other resources that offer safety and support.
Here is a great resource that sheds some light on *why women choose to stay.
Many of us have heard of domestic violence incidents involving acquaintances or friends and family, and may ask ourselves this question quite often.
Why do you believe some women do not leave and choose to stay?