They Didn’t Take Me Seriously: A Depressing Yet Reoccurring Truth of Domestic Violence
- March 11, 2008
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Today I came across this devastating story about a 15 year old Pakistani girl in England, who was forced to marry against her will and was brutally abused and raped by her husband, becoming pregnant at 15. Ruksana’s Story
The most depressing part of this whole incident is that Ruksana had cried out for help, but was not taken seriously.
With her classmates at school, Ruksana had heard a talk about domestic violence – and some of what she heard chimed with the 12-year-old schoolgirl.
Says Ruksana: “The speaker listed the symptoms and said – if this is happening to you, then it is domestic violence. So I kept his card, and when my parents threatened me with marriage, that’s when I called the police.”
“I told the police: my father wants to send me to Pakistan to get married against my will. I told them that he had my passport. “
“The police reassured me that this wouldn’t happen.”
Unfortunately we see that even in developed nations, often times domestic violence victims do not receive the help and aid they need. This links back to a previous post regarding South Asian domestic violence law.
What measures can we take so that the police and the community are more aware of how to deal with domestic violence victims’ cries of help, especially breaking through cultural differences?
Also, it seems that the domestic violence education program did at least help Ruksana realize that she was facing a bigger problem. But how can we advance abuse programs to help young kids not only learn about abuse, but how to deal with it and seek help?
*Note: The picture featured above is an award winning photo from Unicef